Dating 101: What You Can Do For Your Mate

No relationship is perfect. And no form of attraction is completely explainable. But in the “job” of finding a life partner there are some pointers that we all could benefit from to help ourselves become more successful in the process. Many of us have an idea of what we are looking for in a partner. Some of these ideas are based on upbringing. Other ideas stem from the experiences we have had, both good and bad, in past relationships.

Many women like a guy who is tall, handsome and stable. Many men prefer a woman who is beautiful, nurturing and kind. But what if you found yourself lacking these same qualities that you desire? Though we have many different preferences, a major factor in selecting realistic characteristics in a mate should be the inventory of self. I call this the JFK method: “Ask not what your mate can do for you, but what you can do for your mate.

When on a date with a prospective partner, and they ask you what you are looking for in a mate, try telling them what you have to offer. For starters, it helps them to determine if you are viable. Secondly, it puts your own desires of a companion in its proper perspective. For instance, it’s hard to ask for your mate to be rich if you have bad credit, be childless when you have children or be physically fit when you are out of shape. More importantly, it will help you find clarity if you, yourself, are a viable candidate for life partnership.

To do this requires a large degree of self-evaluation and an even larger degree of honesty. Both of these traits are necessary to sustain a lifelong relationship, anyway. So, before you proclaim to someone all your hearts desires, I invite you to take a personal inventory of what you truly have to offer them. It will go a long way in helping your search be more successful.

Now, go ahead try it…Make a list…And check it twice!